I have been inspired by many things to write these posts, but I think this is the best inspiration yet; the Best. Orgasm. Ever!
It came out of nowhere and rippled through every muscle in my body for what felt like forever; it was amazing. It was so amazing that I had to find out why it happened and what I could do to keep them, well me, coming. My first thought was, "Well, I am about to turn 30. Maybe that thing about women hitting their sexual prime in their thirties is true.". I had so been hoping it was true. Then I thought, "Well, I have been working out a lot lately. I've lost around 17 pounds and several inches, maybe that has something to do with it.". So, I looked into both of these possibilities.
Let's start with the hypothesis that women hit their sexual prime in their thirties. Back in the 1940's there was a doctor by the name of Alfred Kinsey and he did a lot of really great things. He founded the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction. He gave us the Kinsey scale that some of you may be familiar with. He wrote a book called “Sexual Behavior in The Human Female”, and another for males. I'll focus on the female book for this post.
He took the sexual histories of over 5,000 women to write this book and he found that women do seem to have better sex once they are in their thirties. The problem is that the book was published in 1953 and the life of the average woman was very different. Sex, especially for unmarried young women, was even more demonized than it is now. The guilt alone would interfere with the level of pleasure for the few women brave enough to break the social taboo. However by the time most of the women in the study were thirty they were married and had children, leaving them little to worry about during sex but their own pleasure; so they reported better sex lives.
It came out of nowhere and rippled through every muscle in my body for what felt like forever; it was amazing. It was so amazing that I had to find out why it happened and what I could do to keep them, well me, coming. My first thought was, "Well, I am about to turn 30. Maybe that thing about women hitting their sexual prime in their thirties is true.". I had so been hoping it was true. Then I thought, "Well, I have been working out a lot lately. I've lost around 17 pounds and several inches, maybe that has something to do with it.". So, I looked into both of these possibilities.
Let's start with the hypothesis that women hit their sexual prime in their thirties. Back in the 1940's there was a doctor by the name of Alfred Kinsey and he did a lot of really great things. He founded the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction. He gave us the Kinsey scale that some of you may be familiar with. He wrote a book called “Sexual Behavior in The Human Female”, and another for males. I'll focus on the female book for this post.
He took the sexual histories of over 5,000 women to write this book and he found that women do seem to have better sex once they are in their thirties. The problem is that the book was published in 1953 and the life of the average woman was very different. Sex, especially for unmarried young women, was even more demonized than it is now. The guilt alone would interfere with the level of pleasure for the few women brave enough to break the social taboo. However by the time most of the women in the study were thirty they were married and had children, leaving them little to worry about during sex but their own pleasure; so they reported better sex lives.
Scientifically speaking, women hit their hormonal sexual peak around the same time men do; in their late teens and early twenties. There are some theories that sex could be better women in their forties because their bodies stop producing as much oxytocin—our nurturing hormone, so they just aren't as worried about taking care of their partner and focus instead on their own orgasm. Also, hopefully by then, woman have a much better idea of how their bodies work and are more able to communicate that to their partners. The conclusion is, there is no physiological reason to expect your sex life to magically get better in your thirties. However, as we age we gain wisdom even about our bodies and that could very easily lead to better sex.
On to the second hypothesis. Exercise can make sex better, and could have been responsible for my super-awesome orgasm. As always, I did some digging and wasn't surprised to find out that this was a much more plausible idea. There have been multiple studies done on this topic; so, I'll summarize. Regular exercise does a lot, to not only tone muscle, but increase blood circulation which is important for sexy time. The more blood you can get to your sensitive bits the better and higher the chance of orgasm.
Exercise, like sex, releases endorphins in your brain, and helps to relieve stress. For women, their emotional state is closely related to their sexual arousal and enjoyment. Those same endorphins also help release cortisol, giving you an overall sense of well-being; making it easier to get into the right state of mind for that orgasm.
The increased muscle tone in your body helps produce more testosterone which can lead to an increased libido. On top of that, the extra testosterone floating around also gives you a little boost of confidence which always helps. If that extra confidence were to lead you to a more “risky” form of exercise like rock climbing the adrenaline can mimic those sweet little butterflies in your stomach you felt when you were first dating; good times.
There is also the idea that you could do a more sensual workout, like a pole-dancing, belly dancing, or any kind of dancing class. Learning new sexy moves is very likely to let loose a sexy goddess hiding inside of you and inspire you to more sexual activities with your partner. Let's not forget about how important foreplay is. You can't blow the top of the house that hasn't been built, people. So, the conclusion here is: exercise can lead to better sex and better orgasms, so do it!
At the end of the day I was a little disappointed to learn there isn't a magical awakening I can look forward to in my thirties. I was, however, happy to learn there is yet another way I can take control of my sexual experience. In any way that I can be in more control of my pleasure, and any way I can have more power over how my life plays-out is always a positive thing in my eyes.
On to the second hypothesis. Exercise can make sex better, and could have been responsible for my super-awesome orgasm. As always, I did some digging and wasn't surprised to find out that this was a much more plausible idea. There have been multiple studies done on this topic; so, I'll summarize. Regular exercise does a lot, to not only tone muscle, but increase blood circulation which is important for sexy time. The more blood you can get to your sensitive bits the better and higher the chance of orgasm.
Exercise, like sex, releases endorphins in your brain, and helps to relieve stress. For women, their emotional state is closely related to their sexual arousal and enjoyment. Those same endorphins also help release cortisol, giving you an overall sense of well-being; making it easier to get into the right state of mind for that orgasm.
The increased muscle tone in your body helps produce more testosterone which can lead to an increased libido. On top of that, the extra testosterone floating around also gives you a little boost of confidence which always helps. If that extra confidence were to lead you to a more “risky” form of exercise like rock climbing the adrenaline can mimic those sweet little butterflies in your stomach you felt when you were first dating; good times.
There is also the idea that you could do a more sensual workout, like a pole-dancing, belly dancing, or any kind of dancing class. Learning new sexy moves is very likely to let loose a sexy goddess hiding inside of you and inspire you to more sexual activities with your partner. Let's not forget about how important foreplay is. You can't blow the top of the house that hasn't been built, people. So, the conclusion here is: exercise can lead to better sex and better orgasms, so do it!
At the end of the day I was a little disappointed to learn there isn't a magical awakening I can look forward to in my thirties. I was, however, happy to learn there is yet another way I can take control of my sexual experience. In any way that I can be in more control of my pleasure, and any way I can have more power over how my life plays-out is always a positive thing in my eyes.
