Let
me get started by saying that I am an ejaculating female. So anything
that I say here that may make any other females out there that
ejaculate feel uncomfortable or make them worry completely applies to
myself as well as them. I will also say I fully believe that the
fluid we ejaculate isn't solely urine and is a unique fluid produced
from the Skene's
glands during orgasm.
Ok onto the big questions. What exactly is female ejaculation? To put it simply, squirting/gushing is a fluid release that happens before,during, and possibly after the female orgasm. The fluid itself has been at the center of an ongoing debate in the scientific world for some time now. Some say that it is mostly a “stress induced incontinence” however upon further study it was found that the majority of women that reported ejaculation didn't have issues with incontinence in any other time of their daily lives. I myself would fall into this category. Further studies of the fluid found that there were some components of urine in the fluid but it wasn't solely composed of urine. Doctors now believe that it is the Skene's glands that are making the fluid. They are very closely mingled with the urinary tract so it does make it hard to study. One experiment used a chemical called methylene blue which dyes the urine. After orgasm the chemical was found in her urine, but only in trace amounts in the ejaculated fluid. So I feel it is safe to say that the fluid is different from urine and should not be treated as such.
Ok onto the big questions. What exactly is female ejaculation? To put it simply, squirting/gushing is a fluid release that happens before,during, and possibly after the female orgasm. The fluid itself has been at the center of an ongoing debate in the scientific world for some time now. Some say that it is mostly a “stress induced incontinence” however upon further study it was found that the majority of women that reported ejaculation didn't have issues with incontinence in any other time of their daily lives. I myself would fall into this category. Further studies of the fluid found that there were some components of urine in the fluid but it wasn't solely composed of urine. Doctors now believe that it is the Skene's glands that are making the fluid. They are very closely mingled with the urinary tract so it does make it hard to study. One experiment used a chemical called methylene blue which dyes the urine. After orgasm the chemical was found in her urine, but only in trace amounts in the ejaculated fluid. So I feel it is safe to say that the fluid is different from urine and should not be treated as such.
If
all women have the same parts why don't all women ejaculate? Well for
the same reason not all vaginas look the same or have the same level
of sensitivity. Yes we all have the same basic build, but our
genetics make us all work a little differently. Some people believe
squirting can be taught and has a lot to do with the comfort level a
woman has with her partner. I happen to agree with this idea. If you
want to lean how to do this here is what I think is an affective
method of training your body to do so. You will need to
simultaneously stimulate your clitoris and your G-spot. However the
G-spot is the most important part. If you don't know for most women
it can be located inside, at the front of the vagina. Pressure here
may cause you to have the sensation of needing to pee because it is
located near those Skene's glands, but don't let it hold you
back. While you or you and your partner, or you and your toys are going for it when you feel you are about to orgasm instead of
squeezing in with your pelvic floor muscles, as most of us do, push
out and let it flow. I have to say from personal experience its one
of the best feeling ever.
How much fluid will their be? Again its different for every woman, but the doctors say the Skene's glands can excreting 30–50 mL (6–10 tsp) in 30–50 seconds. However I will say it is unclear how this was measured so take it with a grain of salt. So to say the least it could be a lot of fluid and if you are capable of multiple orgasms, like myself, it could be a lot more than that. There have been days and nights when I get out of bed and look at all the come and there is a three foot or larger puddle where I was just laying. Its crazy and awesome and sometimes cold lol. I want to stress this is nothing to be ashamed of. I have on occasion taken pictures of my sexy messes because the are so awesome.
How much fluid will their be? Again its different for every woman, but the doctors say the Skene's glands can excreting 30–50 mL (6–10 tsp) in 30–50 seconds. However I will say it is unclear how this was measured so take it with a grain of salt. So to say the least it could be a lot of fluid and if you are capable of multiple orgasms, like myself, it could be a lot more than that. There have been days and nights when I get out of bed and look at all the come and there is a three foot or larger puddle where I was just laying. Its crazy and awesome and sometimes cold lol. I want to stress this is nothing to be ashamed of. I have on occasion taken pictures of my sexy messes because the are so awesome.
What
are the social implications of female ejaculation? For most women
they think they have just peed all over their partner and are
embarrassed. So in future encounters they hold back and some times
keep themselves from orgasm all together. Shame is a huge motivator
and it tends to keep us from having the good things in life and this
is no different. Some women may even keep themselves from having
intimate relationships all together. This breaks my heart. When I
think back to the first time I did it I had no idea what happened I
was freaking out I thought I just ruined this person's couch and it
was the fist time we had sex. When we both got up he looked at me and
said did you know you could do this? I said “do what?” He
explained squirting to me and told me he loved it and thought it was
awesome. If this had not been my experience I don't know what I would
have done (a year and a half later I married him). This is a natural
biological happening and should be celebrated for what it is a
surrender to the pleasures our bodies can give us. The female body
and its functions have long been viewed a gross and women have been
treated badly, to say the least, because of this. Acceptance of
this particular bodily function into “normality” and becoming viewed as
just another awesome thing a woman’s bodies can do is important to me
because I do it and its awesome. No woman should be ashamed of what
her body can do, especially when its an expression of sexual
pleasure.
As a dude, I totally agree with everything on your article. My wife has squirted in the past, and has always been embarrassed by it. I can tell when she is about to go, and she pulls back; I feel I can tell she is about to ejaculate, but stops beforehand. I will definitely he forwarding this posting to her.
ReplyDeleteYou already know I think you're awesome. This post just further verifies this. You are awesome!
Thank you this is an issue that I am passionate about and if I can help get the word out I'm going to do my part.
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